I honestly experience this type of fear so often that it sometimes feels as if I have actually learned to live with it. I'm pretty sure that even the most confident people fear failure every now and then. Fear of failure makes sense when you think of it as a survival strategy--if it didn't exist, we'd be reckless and our species would be endangered. But, oh boy, is it unpleasant! I'd also bet the fear is worse when you're doing something inherently stressful, such as: Present
Customer Service Rep: "Anything else I can help you with?" Sheri: "Yes, I'm sorry, I have another question . . . " Did she really need to apologize? Time and again I've heard women say "I’m sorry" when there's really no reason for them to apologize. I understand that on many occasions they do it to connect, or to show empathy, but the problem is that, in business, it could be misinterpreted as guilt or weakness. Look at these examples: A guy at the office says: “I lo
This morning your boss informed you all of an upcoming “restructure” (a.k.a. downsizing). What did your peers do right after the meeting? Joe followed your boss back to his office, talking to him, and building a case for why the company should keep him (fight). Todd rushed to his office, closed the door, and called one of his clients to see if his company was hiring (flee). Lisa and Shawna got together to discuss the "restructure," to share with each other what they knew, an
I'd like to believe that if we had an organizational chart in my household, my box would be close to the top, whereas Cookie's would be close to the bottom. Hers would be the bottom one, actually, since our other dog is her senior and my daughter no longer has her pet mice. After all, I pay more bills than Cookie, and money is power right? Well, the reality is that having no money or vested power doesn’t seem to prevent Cookie from exercising at least one other type of power.
"There were things Kirk and I could have done to save our marriage," told me now-divorced Rachel after each of us ordered our second glass of pinot grigio "But we could never really talk about things, you know?" she added. "How come?" I asked. "Oh, you didn't know him, did you? He doesn't take criticism well. I tried to discuss things with him many times, but as soon as he felt criticized, or heard something he didn't want to hear, he got defensive, and started attacking me f